GeorgieBC Heather Marsh
Has anyone ever heard of a straight male rape victim who was accused re. his behaviour, dress, situation etc? #RapeCulture #1BillionRising

January 10, 2013     2 retweets #

jlandrith James Landrith
@GeorgieBC Yeah. I was and by both men and women when I disclosed publicly, but please lets just minimize it - that's helpful.

January 11, 2013     2 retweets #

GeorgieBC Heather Marsh
@jlandrith Well actually I wanted to discuss it. You were told your behaviour caused it?

January 11, 2013 #

jlandrith James Landrith
@GeorgieBC I was told that it was my fault, that men can't be raped and that I was lying - and a dozen or so other rape myths.

January 11, 2013     1 retweets #

jlandrith James Landrith
@GeorgieBC That I should have fought back harder, that I shouldn't have been drinking with a stranger...

January 11, 2013     1 retweets #

jlandrith James Landrith
@GeorgieBC ...that it was my fault for accepting a drink from a stranger, that I was weak for "letting" myself get raped and...

January 11, 2013     2 retweets #

jlandrith James Landrith
@GeorgieBC Men, hetero, or otherwise have our own lovely set of victim-blaming myths to confront - often from women as well.

January 11, 2013     1 retweets #

jlandrith James Landrith
@GeorgieBC I am so SICK of hearing about how men don't get victim-blamed by people who can't possibly know what we experience.

January 11, 2013     2 retweets #

jlandrith James Landrith
@GeorgieBC This is advice blogger, Cristina Robinson, informing me how I couldn't get raped because I had an erection - jameslandrith.com/content/view/3…

January 11, 2013     1 retweets #

GeorgieBC Heather Marsh
@jlandrith Even torture victims can get erections when raped, used to add to the humiliation. The male parallel to women can't get pregnant.

January 11, 2013 #

jlandrith James Landrith
@GeorgieBC This was a recent response I had to some harsh victim-blaming and mockery after my HuffPost Live interview: jameslandrith.com/content/view/3…

January 11, 2013     1 retweets #

jlandrith James Landrith
@GeorgieBC This is an article I wrote on Victim-Blaming from the Male Survivor Perspective - jameslandrith.com/content/view/3…

January 11, 2013     2 retweets #

GeorgieBC Heather Marsh
@jlandrith Sounds very familiar. Men are also blamed if their partners are raped when they are present.

January 11, 2013 #

jlandrith James Landrith
@GeorgieBC I apologize for snapping. I'm so used to seeing the whole "men don't get victim-blamed" garbage that I misread you.

January 11, 2013     1 retweets #

GeorgieBC Heather Marsh
@jlandrith No problem, understood. It is really important that we get over group affiliation and just condemn the action, regardless.

January 11, 2013     2 retweets #

GeorgieBC Heather Marsh
@jlandrith And the "are you ever lucky" that even teenage boys have to deal with as well. Very much part of rape culture that men 'want it'.

January 11, 2013 #

GeorgieBC Heather Marsh
@jlandrith So very sorry this happened to you and thank you for writing about it. Very important and it must be extremely hard.

January 11, 2013 #

jlandrith James Landrith
@GeorgieBC I have lots of trust issues and I don't do so well in confined spaces. NO ONE buys me a drink, ever.

January 11, 2013     2 retweets #

miaggie Margaret
@jlandrith @georgiebc hopefully you'll get through this and emerge a stronger man to help others, one day at a time and try to stay strong.

January 11, 2013 #

jlandrith James Landrith
@miaggie Thank you. I'm just a little triggered. I had a speaking engagement at a medical college on Tuesday. @GeorgieBC

January 11, 2013 #

miaggie Margaret
@jlandrith @georgiebc you seem like an amazing man who's endured a horrific experience but try not let it define the real you.

January 11, 2013 #

GeorgieBC Heather Marsh
@jlandrith It is not nearly as uncommon as people think, most assume that men are always raped by men but your situation is common.

January 11, 2013     1 retweets #

GeorgieBC Heather Marsh
@jlandrith It is just rarely called rape ... even when the boy is a teenager. Do you find there are any support groups available?

January 11, 2013 #

jlandrith James Landrith
@GeorgieBC It depends on where you live and the types of funding the local RCC's receive.

January 11, 2013 #

GeorgieBC Heather Marsh
@jlandrith The men I know (mostly raped by men) are not willing to look for help and it is certainly not easy to find, if it exists.

January 11, 2013 #

jlandrith James Landrith
@GeorgieBC Most men who are looking for help find that their only options are online with orgs MaleSurvivor.org and 1in6.org

January 11, 2013     1 retweets #

GeorgieBC Heather Marsh
@jlandrith And no one is willing to consider their triggers, ie raped men in prisons subjected to cavity searches by men. No discussion.

January 11, 2013 #

jlandrith James Landrith
@GeorgieBC Yeah, it is a ridiculous blind spot.

January 11, 2013 #

GeorgieBC Heather Marsh
@jlandrith Actually, I find male prison rape in the US is just considered a standard part of the punishment.

January 11, 2013 #

jlandrith James Landrith
@GeorgieBC It is - and shamefully so. This letter should not have needed to be sent: jameslandrith.com/content/view/3…

January 11, 2013     2 retweets #

miaggie Margaret
@jlandrith @georgiebc This is one if the most disturbing letters I've read. Over 60,000 rapes in a year is beyond my comprehension.

January 11, 2013 #

kcarruthers Kate Carruthers
@jlandrith good point. Victim blaming happens to most rape victims regardless of gender @GeorgieBC

January 11, 2013     2 retweets #

miaggie Margaret
@kcarruthers @jlandrith @georgiebc disgracefully so but true #victimsof #rape #NEVERTOBLAME

January 11, 2013     1 retweets #

miaggie Margaret
@jlandrith @georgiebc I admire the courage it took to speak out about this heinous crime committed against you stay strong.

January 11, 2013 #

nicolejensen Nicole Jensen
@GeorgieBC @kcarruthers only on Law & Order that one time.

January 11, 2013 #

GeorgieBC Heather Marsh
@nicolejensen @kcarruthers Missed it! Link?

January 11, 2013 #

kcarruthers Kate Carruthers
@GeorgieBC @nicolejensen this? kcar.me/10jHdCM

January 11, 2013 #

nicolejensen Nicole Jensen
@kcarruthers @GeorgieBC ok maybe two times or I'm thinking of another court drama. It was a rape by 3-4 women situation.

January 11, 2013 #

nicolejensen Nicole Jensen
@kcarruthers @GeorgieBC wait, no I'm wrong; you've got it.

January 11, 2013 #

GeorgieBC Heather Marsh
@kcarruthers @nicolejensen Thank you. :-)

January 11, 2013 #

kcarruthers Kate Carruthers
@nicolejensen @GeorgieBC oh yeah I remember that episode

January 11, 2013 #