esynclairsElizabeth
@MsCrosswords I'm not saying the accusation is false, I'm saying it's opaque, and when I ask for clarification I am socially punished.
KinkWeaselKink Weasel
@esynclairs @MsCrosswords Its opaque cuz you don’t believe your BFF could harass? Or because you only have the harassed’s word for it?
KinkWeaselKink Weasel
@esynclairs In this case: “I told him to leave me alone & not come to my party & he sent someone to spy on it in the guise of research.”
esynclairsElizabeth
@KinkWeasel Is doing research atypical of @maymaym? Is it not douchy to expect permission to control someone because they've hurt you?
KinkWeaselKink Weasel
@esynclairs Research is fine. Sending someone to spy on a former partner & publishing the results isn’t research. It’s harassment. Yo.
esynclairsElizabeth
@KinkWeasel I notice IDK enough about what happened in this instance - I'm gonna try and ask both parties. Thx for illuminating this.
esynclairsElizabeth
@MsCrosswords Are you saying that people who are verbally abused aren't real victims? (This is an actual question, not rhetorical device.)
MsCrosswordsMs. Crosswords
@esynclairs: OK. Trying to educate you about basic consent culture concepts is triggering. I need to leave you some reading and disengage.
esynclairsElizabeth
@KinkWeasel You're the folks making fun of his pain the way I got made fun of in school. His folks aren't. Therefore, while I don't think...
esynclairsElizabeth
@KinkWeasel ...he's the only one who hurts and y'all aren't, I feel safer speaking with him than with Kitty Stryker, Maggie Mayhem, etc.
KinkWeaselKink Weasel
@esynclairs I don’t know. Being human means hurting & getting hurt. I assume everyone suffers & causes suffering. It’s what happens next.
KinkWeaselKink Weasel
@esynclairs If he’s your friend & you trust him, that’s great. He is terribly clever and passionate. But he also has a lot of former friends
esynclairsElizabeth
@KinkWeasel Um, then this word is as fucking useless. It's like calling both the Peoples Temple and the Singularity Institute 'cults'.
KinkWeaselKink Weasel
@esynclairs Ok I’ll make it easy. Your friend has interesting ideas. But he’s an asshole. Want empirical evidence? Disagree w/him.
MsMaggieMayhemMaggie Mayhem
@MsCrosswords Fucking someone and blogging their sex acts at a party is also scarier when you're a sex worker with no chance to rely on cops