kittystryker
Kitty Stryker
Here is my public response on tiny.cc/faade as @maymaym has been bullying people for: I will not use something created by an abuser.
tenshinkangae
Tenshin Kangae
@kittystryker especially when their stated aim is not to heal/fix/modify the scene but to destroy it completely?
@kittystryker especially when their stated aim is not to heal/fix/modify the scene but to destroy it completely?
kittystryker
Kitty Stryker
@tenshinkangae well there's that. Though I do think "the scene" needs a massive rehaul.
@tenshinkangae well there's that. Though I do think "the scene" needs a massive rehaul.
tenshinkangae
Tenshin Kangae
@kittystryker agreed. I think there's a distinct difference in trying to change things for the better and 'burning them to the ground'.
@kittystryker agreed. I think there's a distinct difference in trying to change things for the better and 'burning them to the ground'.
kittystryker
Kitty Stryker
@tenshinkangae well, and if you're burning it to the ground, do you have materials to rebuild, or are you just an arsonist?
@tenshinkangae well, and if you're burning it to the ground, do you have materials to rebuild, or are you just an arsonist?
tenshinkangae
Tenshin Kangae
@kittystryker I prefer ways of helping people find healthy & productive ways to engage their sexuality to destroying troubled social spaces.
@kittystryker I prefer ways of helping people find healthy & productive ways to engage their sexuality to destroying troubled social spaces.
maymaym
maymaym
Thx for finally linking to tiny.cc/faade @kittystryker! I appreciate your willingness to share tools that may help others! :D Cheers!
Thx for finally linking to tiny.cc/faade @kittystryker! I appreciate your willingness to share tools that may help others! :D Cheers!
DumbDomme
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@kittystryker @maymaym "I will not use something created by an abuser." Wasn't Baku accused of abuse? You're on FetLife, right?
@kittystryker @maymaym "I will not use something created by an abuser." Wasn't Baku accused of abuse? You're on FetLife, right?
kittystryker
Kitty Stryker
.@DumbDomme yeah, and he owned up to it, however clumsily- @maymaym is *actively being emotionally abusive right now* with NO ownership.
.@DumbDomme yeah, and he owned up to it, however clumsily- @maymaym is *actively being emotionally abusive right now* with NO ownership.
kittystryker
Kitty Stryker
@DumbDomme I left Fetlife for a lot of reasons. I still have a lot of problems w their policies & will continue to work on changing them.
@DumbDomme I left Fetlife for a lot of reasons. I still have a lot of problems w their policies & will continue to work on changing them.
DumbDomme
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@kittystryker Doesn't look like you left... your profile says you just joined several groups 7 hours ago. fetlife.com/users/1891403
@kittystryker Doesn't look like you left... your profile says you just joined several groups 7 hours ago. fetlife.com/users/1891403
kittystryker
Kitty Stryker
.@DumbDomme I quit, almost committed suicide, had a giant breakdown, went on retreat, came back, got better, and created a new profile.
.@DumbDomme I quit, almost committed suicide, had a giant breakdown, went on retreat, came back, got better, and created a new profile.
DumbDomme
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@kittystryker My sincerest best wishes for continuing recovery and happiness. However, saying you "left Fetlife" is a little misleading.
@kittystryker My sincerest best wishes for continuing recovery and happiness. However, saying you "left Fetlife" is a little misleading.
kittystryker
Kitty Stryker
@DumbDomme also, I really don't owe you any explanations, frankly. Who are you? Do you give a flying fuck about my self-care? No? Mmk.
@DumbDomme also, I really don't owe you any explanations, frankly. Who are you? Do you give a flying fuck about my self-care? No? Mmk.
DumbDomme
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@kittystryker I wasn't asking about your self-care. I was asking about a statement you made publicly.
@kittystryker I wasn't asking about your self-care. I was asking about a statement you made publicly.
kittystryker
Kitty Stryker
@DumbDomme well, I've clarified. Go back to your martyr, I'm sure he has wounds that need tending.
@DumbDomme well, I've clarified. Go back to your martyr, I'm sure he has wounds that need tending.
MsMaggieMayhem
Maggie Mayhem
@kittystryker @DumbDomme This is why he is an abuser missmaggiemayhem.com/2012/08/19/on-… Because he used stalking and intimidation tactics after we had sex
@kittystryker @DumbDomme This is why he is an abuser missmaggiemayhem.com/2012/08/19/on-… Because he used stalking and intimidation tactics after we had sex
DumbDomme
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@MsMaggieMayhem @kittystryker I didn't say anything about maymay being or not being an abuser.
@MsMaggieMayhem @kittystryker I didn't say anything about maymay being or not being an abuser.
MsMaggieMayhem
Maggie Mayhem
@DumbDomme You are nitpicking @kittystryker to defend an abuser. Fetlife isn't a consent tool. You just want to take her down. Stop it.
@DumbDomme You are nitpicking @kittystryker to defend an abuser. Fetlife isn't a consent tool. You just want to take her down. Stop it.
DumbDomme
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@MsMaggieMayhem @kittystryker Asking her to clarify a public statement that isn't 100% true isn't nitpicking.
@MsMaggieMayhem @kittystryker Asking her to clarify a public statement that isn't 100% true isn't nitpicking.
MsCrosswords
Ms. Crosswords
@DumbDomme @MsMaggieMayhem @kittystryker: While we're on the subject of ideological purity, Maymay allegedly fights abuse; is abusive.
@DumbDomme @MsMaggieMayhem @kittystryker: While we're on the subject of ideological purity, Maymay allegedly fights abuse; is abusive.
kittystryker
Kitty Stryker
@MsCrosswords @MsMaggieMayhem PS bc it's really not gonna get me anywhere I've blocked @DumbDomme fyi
@MsCrosswords @MsMaggieMayhem PS bc it's really not gonna get me anywhere I've blocked @DumbDomme fyi
MsMaggieMayhem
Maggie Mayhem
@MsCrosswords @DumbDomme @kittystryker Why bring us into it? This is a deal only because someone RT'd his consent culture criticisms.
@MsCrosswords @DumbDomme @kittystryker Why bring us into it? This is a deal only because someone RT'd his consent culture criticisms.
MsMaggieMayhem
Maggie Mayhem
@MsCrosswords @DumbDomme @kittystryker So I'm wondering WHY ARE YOU STILL FOLLOWING WHAT I MIGHT SAY ABOUT YOUR SOFTWARE?
@MsCrosswords @DumbDomme @kittystryker So I'm wondering WHY ARE YOU STILL FOLLOWING WHAT I MIGHT SAY ABOUT YOUR SOFTWARE?
MsMaggieMayhem
Maggie Mayhem
@MsCrosswords @DumbDomme @kittystryker It's like another blaring, "I'm watching you" and it's on a CONSENT tag and gets RT'd on my TL.
@MsCrosswords @DumbDomme @kittystryker It's like another blaring, "I'm watching you" and it's on a CONSENT tag and gets RT'd on my TL.
MsMaggieMayhem
Maggie Mayhem
@MsCrosswords @DumbDomme @kittystryker What part of "leave the girl you fucked and hate alone" is he not grasping?
@MsCrosswords @DumbDomme @kittystryker What part of "leave the girl you fucked and hate alone" is he not grasping?
kittystryker
Kitty Stryker
@MsMaggieMayhem well cause that's how abusers work. they fuck with your head. @MsCrosswords @DumbDomme
@MsMaggieMayhem well cause that's how abusers work. they fuck with your head. @MsCrosswords @DumbDomme
MsMaggieMayhem
Maggie Mayhem
@kittystryker I'm not involved, he fucking flags a reminder that he's still watching me. That's really fucked up. @MsCrosswords @DumbDomme
@kittystryker I'm not involved, he fucking flags a reminder that he's still watching me. That's really fucked up. @MsCrosswords @DumbDomme
MsMaggieMayhem
Maggie Mayhem
@kittystryker Because there will be a tweet from him tucked into the hashtag of every conference I've attended. @MsCrosswords @DumbDomme
@kittystryker Because there will be a tweet from him tucked into the hashtag of every conference I've attended. @MsCrosswords @DumbDomme
MsMaggieMayhem
Maggie Mayhem
@kittystryker @MsCrosswords @DumbDomme Pulling stalkery bullshit on a consent hashtag is a deranged level of humor.
@kittystryker @MsCrosswords @DumbDomme Pulling stalkery bullshit on a consent hashtag is a deranged level of humor.
KdotCdot
KC
@DumbDomme I don't care to comment on specifics I can truthfully say that he's made me feel unsafe, targeted. @MsMaggieMayhem @kittystryker
@DumbDomme I don't care to comment on specifics I can truthfully say that he's made me feel unsafe, targeted. @MsMaggieMayhem @kittystryker
BlkBootsTN
BlkBoots
@MsMaggieMayhem This twt made me almost aspirate coffee. Not b/c stalking/intimidation. B/C I've met him & you are so far out of his league
@MsMaggieMayhem This twt made me almost aspirate coffee. Not b/c stalking/intimidation. B/C I've met him & you are so far out of his league
MsMaggieMayhem
Maggie Mayhem
@BlkBootsTN Yeah, I had sex with him. Not my best moment. I've been paying heavily for it ever since.
@BlkBootsTN Yeah, I had sex with him. Not my best moment. I've been paying heavily for it ever since.
BlkBootsTN
BlkBoots
@MsMaggieMayhem I'm not one to judge. It was just a shock. I've done people I wouldn't do again also.
@MsMaggieMayhem I'm not one to judge. It was just a shock. I've done people I wouldn't do again also.
MsMaggieMayhem
Maggie Mayhem
@BlkBootsTN Leagues are rubbish but it would hurt his martyr image for people to know he fucked a pornstar and got creepy scary angry on her
@BlkBootsTN Leagues are rubbish but it would hurt his martyr image for people to know he fucked a pornstar and got creepy scary angry on her
MsMaggieMayhem
Maggie Mayhem
@BlkBootsTN Not that there are leagues. I saw someone smart with a podcast who was a cute subbie boy. I wound up with someone vicious.
@BlkBootsTN Not that there are leagues. I saw someone smart with a podcast who was a cute subbie boy. I wound up with someone vicious.
BlkBootsTN
BlkBoots
@MsMaggieMayhem Yeah, I wasn't trying to quantify attractiveness. I was chickn hawking on him at a conf until he killed it with his mouth.
@MsMaggieMayhem Yeah, I wasn't trying to quantify attractiveness. I was chickn hawking on him at a conf until he killed it with his mouth.
kittystryker
Kitty Stryker
.@DumbDomme not that I expect you to have been following all that, but the name is different.
.@DumbDomme not that I expect you to have been following all that, but the name is different.
kittystryker
Kitty Stryker
.@DumbDomme strangely enough, when I was busy overdosing on klonopin and alcohol and shutting down *all* my accounts FL was one of many.
.@DumbDomme strangely enough, when I was busy overdosing on klonopin and alcohol and shutting down *all* my accounts FL was one of many.
kittystryker
Kitty Stryker
.@DumbDomme I guess you missed my giant breakdown thanks to all the pressure of people like @maymaym giving me constant bullying shit
.@DumbDomme I guess you missed my giant breakdown thanks to all the pressure of people like @maymaym giving me constant bullying shit
kittystryker
Kitty Stryker
.@DumbDomme and my abusive fiance leaving me after 3 years and stuff. I had a lot going on.
.@DumbDomme and my abusive fiance leaving me after 3 years and stuff. I had a lot going on.
kittystryker
Kitty Stryker
.@DumbDomme and I will *definitely* not use an abuse reporting tool controlled entirely by an abusive man. No fucking way. cc @maymaym
.@DumbDomme and I will *definitely* not use an abuse reporting tool controlled entirely by an abusive man. No fucking way. cc @maymaym
DumbDomme
D
@kittystryker @maymaym To each her own. I just wouldn't say "I will not use something created by an abuser" when you do.
@kittystryker @maymaym To each her own. I just wouldn't say "I will not use something created by an abuser" when you do.
kittystryker
Kitty Stryker
.@DumbDomme there is a MASSIVE difference between abusive behaviour you take ownership for & CHANGE... & being an abuser. cc @maymaym
.@DumbDomme there is a MASSIVE difference between abusive behaviour you take ownership for & CHANGE... & being an abuser. cc @maymaym
kittystryker
Kitty Stryker
.@DumbDomme Don't know if Baku is an abuser-I know he violated boundaries. I know @maymaym is an abuser who continues to violate boundaries.
.@DumbDomme Don't know if Baku is an abuser-I know he violated boundaries. I know @maymaym is an abuser who continues to violate boundaries.